Jumpstart Your Success With EFT Tapping

If you’ve been struggling to have success in some area of your life, you’re not alone! While we often think of fear of failure as a major block to success, we may also experience fear of success from time to time.

Sometimes we associate success with negative consequences to our lives, or are simply afraid of the "unknowns" surrounding success. In this video, I guide us through an EFT tapping sequence to help let go of the fear of success - just tap along with the video to try it out! Enjoy, and best of luck! :)

P.S. I’ve also got a great video to help let go of the pain of past “failures” here that you might like, and you can find more of my tapping videos to help with success here!

Feeling Unheard? Get Your Voice Back With EFT Tapping!

Feeling like others don't hear or understand you is no fun! This EFT tapping sequence helps to release feelings associated with feeling unheard...just tap along with the video! Enjoy! :)

Stop Rushing Around With EFT Tapping

The feeling of spending our entire day rushing around can be draining...but what if we could still function optimally without feeling rushed or hurried?

In fact, it’s possible to let go of the excess stress that can decrease our true productive potential and harness the beneficial stress (sometimes called “eustress”) that helps us thrive. This tapping sequence is designed to do just that! You can tap along with this video to help let go of excessive stress and gain insight to promote stress-free workflow. Enjoy! :)

Let Go Of Loneliness With EFT Tapping

Loneliness is an emotion most of us experience from time to time… and it can be a really uncomfortable one! Sometimes we feel lonely when we’re alone, and sometimes we feel lonely when we’re surrounded by people as well.

These lonely feelings, just like other feelings, sometimes have some information or guidance for us. And, as much as they can seem never-ending (trust me, I know!), they too can come and go. You can tap along with this video to help let go of loneliness and tune into anything it’s trying to tell you or motivate you to do. Enjoy! :)

Shed Your Fears To Follow Your Passions

If you're like many people, you might be able to imagine some of the things you'd like to have in your future. You might already have some passions that you'd like to follow, and steps you want to take to really create that future for yourself.

One of the huge barriers to actually creating that future for ourselves is fear. It could be fear of taking the steps we need to, or even fear of what might happen if we really do create that future for ourselves. I've created this tapping sequence to help release some of those fears.

Fears are natural, and we don't have to let them dictate what we can and can't do in life. They exist for a reason, and ultimately we get to choose what we do with them. Enjoy, and all the best!

P.S. You might also like to check out this post for a little more assistance in following your passions! :)

EFT Tapping To Heal A Broken Heart

It's Valentine's Day… a day almost certain to crush your spirits if you're suffering from a broken heart. I know first hand how hard it can be to process the experience of heartbreak! There are so many great tools available to help with this these days, and tapping is definitely one of them. I created this sequence that you can tap along with as a special Valentine's gift for all of us who have loved and lost. You might also find some of my videos that focus on grief helpful. Lots of love! :)

How A Diagnosis Can Affect Our Bodies' Ability To Heal... And What We Can Do About It

As a healthcare professional, I’ve seen people get diagnosed with conditions on a regular basis (dental conditions, that is!). And those diagnoses (along with the anticipated treatment and expected results, or prognosis) stir up all kinds of reactions in the people who are getting them! I’ve seen everything from relief (some people find out that things are less serious than expected) to disappointment, and all the way to overwhelm and grief… and all of those are normal responses to something as personal as our health.

Make no mistake: a diagnosis can be a massive help in improving our health! If we have awareness of what is going on in our bodies, that allows us to take care of them in the way they need. But a diagnosis can also limit our bodies’ natural healing abilities, in some cases. Here are my top tips for unlocking your healing potential:

  • Be curious about the diagnosis (and treatment, and prognosis, too!). We often tend to give healthcare professionals authority over our lives. What we sometimes forget is that medical conditions vary as far as how “textbook” they are and how easily they can be diagnosed. Your healthcare provider should be able to offer you some of this information - for example, the accuracy of any tests that were done, and how much the prognosis can vary. You can always seek a second opinion, if in doubt about a diagnosis, recommended treatment, or prognosis. I’m in no way implying that a healthcare professional would offer misleading advice, I’m simply reminding us that there is sometimes more uncertainty in the diagnostic process than we’re aware.

  • Let go of the emotions associated with the diagnosis. Getting a diagnosis can be really stressful and invoke a spectrum of emotions - shock, fear, anxiety, despair, helplessness… Depending on the circumstances, the moment we receive a diagnosis can be a mini trauma in and of itself! And of course, the recommended treatment and prognosis can also be stress-inducing. Just like any traumatic events, this moment of diagnosis can be targeted with EFT tapping to let go of the body’s trapped emotions and lower our everyday stress - which tends to allow more opportunity for our bodies to repair themselves.

  • Leave room for better results than your healthcare professional expects. Once you find out the range of expected results of treatment options from your healthcare provider, keep in mind that there are always unusual anomalies and cases that react more favourably than typically expected. For example, there are reports of spontaneous remission from various types of cancer. I’ve also personally experienced a few results that exceeded expectations. In one case, there was no conventional medical treatment recommended for a persistent viral infection, but I consulted a naturopath and used an herbal tincture - and the infection was eliminated by the follow up. I also had received a diagnosis of non-allergic rhinitis that could be treated with steroids (which caused side effects) or surgery (which was estimated to have a 60% success rate). Instead, I moved when I left my ex-husband, and my symptoms resolved without needing treatment. Of course, I always recommend to consult with your healthcare provider when choosing treatment (especially for more serious conditions), but keep in mind that the “typical” results may not include the results you can achieve.

    A diagnosis can be incredibly useful on the path to healing. These tips should help take full advantage of the positive information it provides, while letting go of any pain or unnecessary limitations it imposes! Happy tapping, and all the best! :)

Follow Your Passions with the Super Blood Wolf Moon

Sunday’s super blood wolf moon, like all full moons, gives us an opportunity to harness its energy to make life changes. This particular full moon is associated with a lot of emotion and passion, which provides guidance towards what we’d like to see for humanity, as well as our own creative outlets (on a smaller scale).

In the spirit of helping us all follow our bliss, I’ve crafted this tapping sequence to help let go of the emotions associated with past failures (or perceived failures). Although it may not always be obvious to the conscious mind, these emotions can become trapped in the body and affect our behaviour and performance. As we let go of what’s been weighing us down, it offers us space to follow our passions with greater ease and less unconscious resistance.

Try tapping along… and let me know in the comments how you express your creativity! :)

"I'm Not Enough": EFT Tapping For Feelings Of Inadequacy

Have you ever felt that you're just not enough - for someone, something, or even for who you want yourself to be?

Insecurities and feelings of inadequacy have a way of showing up in our lives, sometimes to our detriment…and sometimes to our benefit!

A core belief of “I'm not enough” can manifest in many different ways - it can show up as excessive pride, a desire to prove oneself, a list of amazing accomplishments, holding oneself back, low self-esteem, people pleasing, or even self-sabotage. Generally, these manifestations all have some kind of “upside” or benefit - ranging from self-protection to motivation, and everything in between.

It's possible, though, to show some love and compassion to the part of us that thinks we're not enough… and encourage it to consider the idea that maybe, just maybe, we ARE enough, and that it's safe and beneficial to acknowledge that. (Sounds crazy, I know!)

Here's a tapping sequence I created for just that purpose… give it a try and let me know how it works. Good luck, and happy tapping! :)

5 Simple Tools To Help Stay In The Moment... And Stop Future Tripping

  • Find a notepad… and use it. Guess what - if you have a long list of things that need to be done, and you keep it in your head, it might tend to occupy your thoughts! There is a pretty basic solution to this dilemma, and it involves old-school technology. :) Use a pen and paper to make yourself checklists - I like to divide my tasks according to their time frames to keep it simple and organized. I prefer using a pen and paper for this list-making, because it prevents me from wandering into social media and online shopping when I write myself a quick note.

  • Meet your future tripping with compassion and curiosity. We usually have a good reason for thinking about the future, even if we don’t know what it is! If you notice that you are stuck future tripping, good news - you’re human! :) See if you can notice how this pattern benefits you and whether it addresses any underlying needs you might have. Paradoxically, accepting that you are going to think about the future a lot might actually decrease how much you do it.

  • Find a fun activity to do that requires your concentration. Nothing keeps you present like combining the joy of being in the moment with something that captures your attention. Ever watched a really good movie? You probably were glued to the screen… not thinking about taking the trash out three days later. Some people like books, mountain biking, cooking, learning a new skill, or drawing to incite their passion for the present. There are so many options - don’t be afraid to try out a few!

  • Meditate with the healing power of nature. I *love* finding an appropriate meditation spot in the great outdoors… but sometimes that can be easier said than done! If you aren’t into seated meditation, you can just take a leisurely walk with an intention to notice your surroundings. And if you like seated meditation but the weather won’t cooperate, or you can’t make it to a natural sanctuary, try using some nature sounds in a nice indoor space to help slow down the pace of life and center yourself. My favorite nature meditation collection is Nature Heals by Ilchi Lee.

  • Try a Thetahealing download for being present. Thetahealing downloads are really similar to software downloads for a computer, and basically function to upgrade your internal programming.  If you have a faulty version of a being present program, then maybe it's time to upgrade!  For example, some of us have been taught that being present feels unsafe or leaves us unprepared.  :(  No wonder we wouldn't want that!  All you have to do is say "YES" after reading this to receive the pure, direct download of the feeling of being present, without finding yourself unprepared, in the highest and best way with joy and ease.  It feels really, really good!  Enjoy! :)

5 Quick Tips for Writing Really Juicy Affirmations that Work

You may have heard of affirmations as a powerful tool for creating change in your life.  Well, as it turns out, there are affirmations and then there are *affirmations*.  :)  The best affirmations create powerful feelings that are properly matched with what you expect to feel when the affirmation is true.  This is really great news, because with just a little reflection (and maybe a thesaurus, lol), you can craft yourself some mighty little statements to take your life to the next level!

I'll use an example that we'll tweak as we go through the steps, that is based on wanting to get a good job as a dental hygienist.  (No personal bias there… lol!)

  1. Write an affirmation that is present tense. If you're repeating an affirmation that is set in the future, it makes it harder to ever arrive at. It's sort of like saying, "I'll get around to it..." - we all know what that really means, lol! ;) In our example, we would use "I have a great job as a dental hygienist" as opposed to "I will have a great job as a dental hygienist."

  2. Be somewhat specific. You don't need to hammer out every detail, but do think of different aspects of what your affirmation is about. To use our example again: What makes the job great? Is it the co-workers, the compensation, the clientele, the actual work? We could adjust our statement to something like, "I am part of a great dental team as a well-paid dental hygienist serving clients who appreciate us."

  3. Use words that incite a lot of emotion. The whole point of the affirmation is to create an abundance of good feelings within you, and the words you choose can make a big difference here. Turning back to our example, we could consider: What does a "great dental team" feel like? How about "clients who appreciate us?" We might decide to make our affirmation, "I am in love with my job as a well-paid dental hygienist who's part of a caring, supportive, fun dental team serving kind and understanding clients who value our work, rave about us, and help us love our day!" (Starting to sound more exciting, eh?)

  4. Dig a little deeper into WHY you want that affirmation to be true. Sometimes you have an idea of some concrete thing that you want, but it might be that the thing is only a vehicle for something else. In our example, we would have to wonder: Why is this particular job something that is important? What about the "well-paid" aspect of it? It could be that this hypothetical job, when compared with others, provides a valuable sense of social connection, or accomplishment, or self-actualization. The pay might be important to ensure financial freedom, or it might be relevant to respect or status. We could re-work our affirmation yet again, to something like, "I am in love with my dream job as a successful dental hygienist who is part of a caring, supportive, fun dental team serving kind and understanding clients who value our work, rave about us, and help us love our day!" (In this example, I've used self-actualization - "dream job" - and status - "successful" - as our motivating factors.)

  5. Look for blocks or resistances to your affirmation. Sometimes, we have a little voice inside that tells us that we don't deserve what our affirmation would bring us, or that it's not possible, or... any number of stories. Some of these, we may get over naturally (in the example above, we may be a new graduate who needs experience before feeling like we could hope for our dream job), and some may be "tail-enders" that we can use EFT tapping to help let go of (an example relating to our proposed dental hygiene job might be that little voice telling us, "...but that kind of job doesn't exist."). You can check out a list of common resistances or psychoenergetic reversals here, and find information about tail-enders here.

Once you've honed your affirmation and addressed the roots of your desires as well as any resistances, you should be left with a statement that feels amazing to say! Write it down, say it out loud, tell your friends, and… enjoy! :)

Uncovering The Roots Of Burnout

If you work in a helping profession, chances are that you have heard of burnout. Maybe you have had colleagues who’ve suffered from burnout, or even experienced it yourself.

Burnout involves emotional exhaustion - a condition that affects a person both physically and emotionally, and results from continually experiencing excessive stress. Burnout has been linked to many negative consequences, too. On a personal level, it has been associated with other conditions including depression, suicidal ideation, decreased personal accomplishment, and substance abuse. But it affects a wider slice of humanity than just the individual suffering from burnout - interpersonal relationships, workplace morale and relationships, and the quality of a person’s work can also be affected, for example.

Not only that, but those of us in helping professions may also find ourselves suffering from burnout in other areas of our lives! We sometimes end up overgiving in everything from personal relationships to leisure activities - potentially increasing the sources of stress that contribute to burnout, instead of helping to prevent it.

Luckily, EFT tapping does a great job of letting go of some of the piled up emotions that can (eventually) result in burnout! In this tapping sequence, I’ve put in an added bonus - I’ve included wording that invites the root causes of burnout to identify themselves.

Oftentimes, something has caused us to believe that we have to overgive without being able to replenish ourselves satisfactorily. Fears (for example, of losing a job or being made fun of) can prevent us from setting healthy boundaries or refusing excessive commitments, as can anxieties about self-worth. Once we become aware of what is driving our behaviours that contribute to burnout, we can address these root issues and reap the rewards! Good luck and happy tapping! :)

Afraid Of Needles? Check Out This EFT Tapping Video!

If you’re a little afraid of needles, you are not alone! Being apprehensive is a very normal response.

One of my passions (besides EFT tapping) is teaching local anesthesia to dental hygiene students. In my experience, it’s very common to be at least a little nervous before receiving dental local anesthesia, so I decided to make an EFT tapping video to help calm the fear response. This video has a little explanation of how tapping works, followed by an EFT tapping sequence that you can use to help calm the nerves. Enjoy! :)

*Please note, this video is intended to use with apprehension/ anxiety type fear, rather than a true phobia. If you experience a true phobia (especially vasovagal reflex reaction… which involves fainting), please don’t use this video.

Feeling Like People Let You Down?

It’s happened to all of us - we put our faith in someone to come through for us in some way or another, and then feel let down when they don’t meet our expectations. This can leave us with a whole heap of hurt feelings (especially if it becomes a pattern for us), and create potentially self-destructive behaviours in us as we try to avoid the same type of situation in the future.

Just like (almost) always, we can definitely tap on that! ;) I created this tapping sequence to help let go of the feelings that surround a situation in which someone lets us down. As a bonus, I’ve included a little tapping around some of the hidden reasons we might like to hold onto these hurt feelings! Happy tapping! :)

Feeling Unappreciated? Good News... You Can Tap On That, Too! :)

Tell me if this has ever happened to you… you generously offer something to a friend, colleague, or group, only to find yourself feeling unappreciated when they don’t even bother to thank you!

This can be a frustrating experience, particularly when it occurs repeatedly. Besides creating animosity between ourselves and others, it can result in us closing ourselves off from the wonderful potential that lies inside us. Luckily, tapping does a great job of letting go of hurt feelings that are associated with feeling taken for granted or under appreciated! Just tap along with this video to try it out. Enjoy! :)

How Can EFT Tapping Help With Athletic Performance?

True story - every now and then, I forget that tapping works! :P

Case in point… this past weekend, I was playing around on a slackline (I’m still a beginner!) and started to get stuck. I had made some good progress on it, but kept falling off at the same point, in the same way. And for a little while, I continued this way, until…

I remembered that I do EFT tapping and that it’s a great tool for athletic performance! (And also personal performance in many other endeavors… but I’ll leave that for another post.)

There has actually been research done to examine the effects of EFT on performance in sports such as basketball and soccer… and these studies found that tapping had positive effects on athletes’ outcomes.

So what I ended up doing (instead of continuing to fall off and get frustrated!) was tapping one round on the frustration and disappointment I was feeling over my slackline fails. After less than a minute of tapping, I made it the whole way across on both of my next two tries on the line!

It’s not really known just how EFT tapping helps to improve athletic performance, but research has shown that it decreases levels of the stress hormone cortisol and normalizes brain waves out of a fight/ flight/ freeze pattern. So it may be that the tapping helps dissipate excess stress, allowing for optimal performance. In my opinion, there are probably also be other ways that it improves performance. After all, it’s a great way to quickly retrain the brain and adjust expectations!

You can try out my EFT tapping sequence for optimal personal performance, and see what you think! Happy tapping! :)

When Positive Thinking Hurts: The Healing Power of Acknowledgement and Validation

Recently I watched this video, in which psychotherapist Megan Devine shares her findings and philosophy about helping a friend who is experiencing some kind of hurt or grief.

I recommend watching the video yourself, but if you don’t have time, here’s a quick synopsis:

  • Usually we try to cheer people up when they are experiencing some kind of pain.

  • This doesn’t actually take away our friend’s pain, and might make them feel misunderstood or patronized. (Potentially causing more pain.)

  • They may seem to cheer up, but this might actually just mean that they have stopped trying to share their authentic experience. (So they may be secretly experiencing this additional pain.)

  • Instead, Megan recommends acknowledgement of our friend’s feelings.

If you’ve ever had someone invalidate your pain, you may be able to relate to Megan’s message. It’s one I hold near and dear to my heart, as I’ve long ago lost count of the number of ways I’ve been told that I am not supposed to feel the pain I do.

When we’re supporting our friend, we also have the option of checking in with him as to what he’d like. “Would you like to just tell me about this, would you like advice, or is there something else I can do to help?” might be a good place to start.

Sometimes, when our friend needs to just vent, it can become emotionally draining on us to listen. Besides knowing our own limits, it can be useful to use EFT tapping to keep our own stress levels low while supporting those we care about. You can find my post on tapping while supporting friends here.

If you’ve had to deal with having your sadness invalidated, you may also enjoy the following video. I created this tapping sequence to help acknowledge the sadness we feel from time to time in this life, as well as hurt feelings we might experience from having had that sadness dismissed or rejected by others. Hope you enjoy it! :)

Trick Or Treat! Beat Candy Cravings With EFT Tapping

It’s that time of year when there are higher-than-normal levels of bite-sized candies in circulation! This can be either a really fun thing (if you love tiny candies), or, if you experience undesirable cravings for sweets, a super arduous test of willpower.

Luckily, EFT tapping can be used to help head off cravings! Tapping works really well for cravings if you use it the right way. Generally, there are three ways tapping can help with cravings:

  1. Decrease the intensity of a craving, to give you more of a choice in the matter.

  2. Address the root causes of the cravings.

  3. Release resistances to giving up the cravings.

I think it’s probably obvious that addressing the root causes of the cravings will allow for the most permanent results. But all three ways are important. I’ll use an example to better illustrate how these different approaches might work together.

Let’s say a woman named Sarah experiences cravings for chocolate bars. She can use tapping specifically on a craving as it is occurring, and its particular sensations and aspects. Maybe she likes the smell of the chocolate, and the way it feels in her mouth. She can tap on all the things about the chocolate that make her excited to eat it. Sarah can also tap on emotional associations with the chocolate and events that are associated with it, as well as things that trigger the craving. In this case, let’s say she associates chocolate with a reward for doing well in some way and with celebrations. She is triggered to crave it most when sitting at her desk at work.

After doing some self-discovery, Sarah realizes that her cravings come in part from her low self-esteem and a desire for approval. She can then look for specific events in her past that supported this pattern, such as being told her work wasn’t good enough to include in the school newspaper when she was young (or a number of other ones…). Then she can use the Tell the Story technique (which I teach at my workshops) to help let go of any hurt feelings related to these events.

It might be that Sarah has some resistance to giving up her cravings. For the sake of this example, we’'ll consider that she believes she will feel deprived if she can no longer indulge her cravings, and that she likes having the cravings as one way she can rebel in her life and have some personal power. In the case of resistance, techniques such as tapping to clear multiple psychoenergetic reversals (see my post about that here) or refusal tapping can be very useful before working on either the cravings themselves or their root causes.

So potentially, Sarah could clear her reversals first, then set aside specific times to work on the root causes of her cravings, all the while using tapping every time she starts to experience a craving (so that she can decrease the craving’s intensity). This would be the most effective way to eliminate the cravings altogether. It can definitely take some persistence, and require tapping on the craving each time it arises.

I’ve also got a few more helpful tips about tapping to beat cravings:

  • Tap on a craving before getting to the “point of no return” - that is, the point at which you are going to consume the item no matter what. Once you’ve reached the point of no return, chances are that you will not be able to decrease the intensity enough to actually overcome it.

  • Try tapping on any guilt you feel for having the craving, or for giving in to the craving. Guilt can build up and lead to self-sabotage - contributing to more cravings.

  • Try tapping on any “losses” you’ve experienced, or things you used to have but don’t anymore. One of my mentors recommends this as a key to using tapping on mindless eating patterns, describing them as “trying to fill a hole.” I have some videos that use tapping to address grief here.

  • You can also tap on how you would feel if you could never eat the item again. This can help clear some of the emotions that keep cravings locked in place, and also uncover some of the emotions associated with an item, or the sensations that create the craving.

  • Sometimes it can take a little digging and persistence to figure out what the root issue for a craving is. Don’t get discouraged - keep with it and it will eventually surface, especially if you’ve addressed any resistances you may have. (You can also try tapping on not knowing what the root issue is… “Even though I can’t figure out the root issue of my cravings, I love and accept myself…”)

  • Some resistances are obvious, but some are tricky. Look for these tricky ones, too. I’ve got a post coming out soon about ways to identify some of the less obvious resistances we may have to the positive changes we’re trying to make.

I’ve also created this tapping sequence that you can tap along with to help with candy cravings this Halloween! Happy tapping! :)

Can We Feel Grief For Our Stuff?

“It’s just a thing - it can be replaced.” Have you ever heard this phrase before? It’s a pretty valid point in many ways; when some object is lost or destroyed, it typically can be replaced in some way (especially with Amazon for all our shopping needs, LOL). But knowing that doesn’t mean that we don’t feel grief over the loss we’ve experienced. Our things can carry a lot of emotional attachment and associations, and losing them can create similar feelings to loss of a living, breathing being.

Just a few months ago, I had a personal experience with loss of an inanimate object, when my truck was totalled. I didn’t think much about the loss at the time (partly because I was preoccupied with other things). The insurance settlement paid for a new vehicle for me, and I thought I had probably been able to let go of the truck without too much ado.

But recently, I started having nightmares about my new vehicle being destroyed as well! I started exploring the idea that maybe I hadn’t really gotten over the sudden loss of my truck, and sure enough… I hadn’t! LOL

I created this tapping sequence to help process the grief we can feel when an important object that we consider “ours” is lost suddenly. Just tap along with the video to see how things shift for you! Enjoy! :)

P.S. You can find the video I mention for working on self-judgement here, and my other videos for letting go of grief here.

Embracing The Transformative Cycles Of The Full Moon In Taurus

Today’s full moon in Taurus is reported to assist us with forward movement in our lives… drawing on a cycle of release and renewal. But letting go of what we know and have grown comfortable with can be easier said than done! And for those of us who have trouble letting go, we may end up with a mixed bag of emotions about that difficulty - shame, self-judgement, frustration, etc.

Here are some of my favourite tapping videos to assist a kind and gentle release of what no longer serves us. This first one addresses the emotions we have about our trouble letting go, and the next two are some techniques to address some of the causes for difficulty releasing. And you can also check out the related blog posts to learn more on these topics: for letting go, reversals, and refusal tapping. Happy full moon! :)