If you’re feeling like you’re somehow stuck or held back in life, you’re not alone! It’s not easy to feel like there’s something standing in your path, tying you down, or in some way keeping you stagnant.
Sometimes, that “stuck” feeling can come from our own resistances to taking positive action (also known as psychoenergetic reversals, reversals, or PERs… more about these and how to release them here). Essentially, I see these resistances as being kind of similar to our “worst-case scenario” friend or family member… well-meaning, but oftentimes alarmist. Resistances tell us that we’re not safe if we do certain things, or that we’ll lose out, or cross some arbitrary line, or that something bad will occur if we take positive, useful actions. Generally, resistances develop to keep us safe in some way, so they’re quite natural to have. I have a number of articles and videos that can help with clearing reversals if you suspect that is the cause of your “stuck-ness.”
In the absence of resistances, a “stuck” feeling can also result from poor timing or inadequate feelings of preparedness. I’ll use a few simple examples to illustrate this.
Let’s say someone named Kelly is looking for a new job. She has her resume looking really polished, includes great references, and creates customized cover letters that position her as the ideal candidate for every job she applies for. She never gets beyond a first interview though, and starts feeling stuck, since she is really ready to change jobs.
Turns out, a few months later, Kelly ends up with an offer for the exact right position for her, that is way more aligned with what she wants to do, and that fits into her life much better than any of the other jobs she’d applied for! She just had to wait for the right timing so that her dream job could become available.
Alternatively, maybe someone named Margo is looking to buy a house. She diligently combs through listings and views potential homes every weekend, but none of them really match what she’s looking for. A part of her is very nervous about owning a home and all the responsibilities that go along with it. She starts reading books and forums and looking for advice about homeownership, and eventually realizes that she’ll be ok as long as she buys a place that doesn’t have a yard or need a lot of repairs, so she ends up buying a great condo that was recently upgraded.
In these examples, Kelly and Margo thought they were getting really stuck, but were actually finding just the right things for them at the right times. But feeling stuck due to timing or readiness still isn’t very fun! I’ve created a little video that you can tap along with if you’re feeling stuck, to help let go of the many emotions that go along with that sensation. Enjoy! :)