5 Simple, Unconventional Tricks To Improve Your Financial Health

Financial stresses can take their toll on our health and well-being, so it makes sense to have good financial health (in addition to mental, emotional, and physical health). Here are 5 fun financial tips that are definitely not conventional wisdom! Use them alongside traditional skills and strategies such as developing your financial literacy and consulting with financial planners.

  • Let go of stress you feel about your financial situation. Have you ever felt so alarmed when looking at your bank account balance that you had to look away? Or just “didn’t even want to look” at how much credit card interest you’re paying each month? Stress we feel about our finances may be meaning to get us to pay attention and do something about the situation, but sometimes can actually be counterproductive and trigger avoidance. I’ve created a tapping sequence that you can use to help let go of financial stress and shame, which can trigger avoidance. As we’re able to let go of these emotions, it helps us to put our attention towards finding solutions instead of panicking. Bonus hint: if you feel stress while looking at your finances, you can also tap on whatever emotion you feel in real time.

  • Improve your self-worth. Poor self-worth can be a root cause of financial difficulties, since finances correlate highly with value in many cases. For example, if you’ve been thinking that you’re not very good at your job, you may be less likely to ask for a raise or apply for a better job. Likewise, poor self-worth can result in turning away opportunities or help that comes your way. I’ve got your back, with a tapping sequence that helps let go of the feelings that can stop us from seeing our value.

  • Let go of any hang-ups you have about improving your financial situation. So, stress we feel about our finances being in disarray can make it harder to improve them… but what about the stress we might have if our finances improved markedly? When you envision the financial success you’d like, do you see anything about that hypothetical situation that seems like a struggle? This tapping sequence is designed to help address fear of success by releasing notions we have about how distasteful success might secretly be.

  • Address any “tail-enders” that you have about your finances. “Tail-enders” are phrases that we automatically add on to the end of affirmations, which change their meanings drastically. For example, if you are using the affirmation, “I have everything I need at all times,” your brain may automatically tell you, “…except I don’t!” Tail-enders can result in negative emotions and even self-sabotage, but they can also be useful in identifying limiting beliefs that can block our good intentions. I’ve created a tapping sequence specifically to highlight tail-enders and other blocks to abundance to allow for release. (And if you’re interested, you can check out this article for more information about tail-enders.)

  • Try a Thetahealing download for abundance. Thetahealing downloads are really similar to software downloads for a computer, and basically function to upgrade your internal programming. If you have a faulty version of an abundance program, then maybe it's time to upgrade! For example, some of us have been taught that abundance feels like a fear of losing all that you have or like guilt for having more than others do. :( No wonder we wouldn't want that! All you have to do is say "YES" after reading this to receive the pure, direct download of the feeling of abundance, without any negative feelings associated with it, in the highest and best way. It feels really, really good! :)

I’m curious… did you find any surprising blocks to abundance, tail-enders, or unusual emotions while tapping along? Let me know in the comments below!

What's Stopping Your Progress? ...How to Identify Resistances or "Psychoenergetic Reversals" with EFT Tapping

If you've been working away at a particular issue with EFT tapping and haven't been making progress, it may be that you are affected by a psychoenergetic reversal (also known as a PER, reversal, or sometimes simply as "resistance" - you can read more about them here).  PERs are essentially reasons why the non-conscious mind wants to hang onto an issue... and there can actually be quite a few of them!

In my blog post about PERs, I discussed 5 main categories of PERs identified by energy psychologist Fred Gallo and shared a video of a sequence I use to address these before tapping. Sometimes, though, we need to get a little more specific in addressing our reversals. Here I’ll share my top tips for discovering PERs that can keep us bound to our issues.

My basic procedure for identifying PERs is simple:

  1. Ask a few questions of yourself to find your PERs.

  2. Use the answers to guide some tapping specific to the PERs.

  3. After clearing PERs, use EFT tapping for the issue.

First things first: get started with a few questions to help see what PERs might be there for you. You can also tap along with this video and see if any others spontaneously surface.

  • What is the best thing about having this issue, or the "upside of the downside"?  Would you lose out on anything if you didn't have it anymore? Sometimes, what seems to be a real problem in our lives can actually be a way that our bodies have adapted to solve another, “primary” problem. For example, maybe I have a series of events I don’t feel like attending, and then end up with a migraine that prevents me from going after all. Some other questions you might ask yourself are, “Are there any side effects of this issue that I really enjoy?” and “Does this issue get me out of anything I hate doing?”

  • How much work do you think it would take to resolve this issue? The truth is, even us motivated people are kind of lazy sometimes! Some issues seem to be so overwhelming to resolve that this can actually sabotage our attempts to make progress on them. As an example of this, let’s say that I’m interested in getting in shape, but I believe that fitness is nothing but hard work and that this is the only way to reach my goal. I may end up having trouble with this issue because of my limiting belief that getting fit has to be hard work rather than an enjoyable process.

  • Does this issue protect you from anything... criticism, being hurt, etc.? Is it in any way related to your survival needs? All of us make use of some handy neurological programming that recognizes certain stimuli as threatening in order to keep us safe. Some of these stimuli are generally dangerous (and so it’s very useful to hold on to our threat recognition), while some are not (and in this case, our threat recognition can hold us back). An example of this would be if I did really well on a test in school, and my classmates made fun of me and hurt my feelings. Now I might associate succeeding with being made fun of, and avoid it… whether I’m consciously aware of it or not.

  • Imagine what would happen if this issue was resolved.  Get into the details... who is there in your life, what are you doing, what do other people say about it...? This is really just another technique to explore the above questions. Vividly imagining your life without an issue can give you some more clues about what you expect to happen without it and how the issue might be serving you in some way. For example, it may be that resolving an issue means that you have to change something in your life that seems really difficult, or lose touch with someone close to you. Occasionally, it can also seem impossible to imagine what life would even look like without the issue… we sometimes start to identify with an issue to the extent that we don’t know who we are without it.

Next, do some tapping for the PERs you discovered. You can always try a very general and broad sequence like the one in this video, but you also might need to get a little more specific. Continuing with our examples from above, some of the specific tapping might include:

  • Needing something, or not wanting to do something. If the primary issue is not wanting to attend something, then tapping around that and needing boundaries might be appropriate. Or, if there is a nice side effect (such as attention from loved ones) that comes with the issue, tapping could be used to address that unmet need and being ok with asking to have needs met.

  • Limiting beliefs around the work required to resolve an issue. When we believe that something is a ton of hard work, it sometimes sounds less appealing. However, “hard work” is very relative, and we sometimes forget that it could be optional. Tapping can be used on limiting beliefs, as well as on specific events that reinforce these beliefs (such as past attempts to resolve an issue).

  • Specific traumatic events that require self-protection. If we’re holding on to an issue as part of a survival or protective mechanism, then it’s often useful to use the Tell The Story technique on any specific events that led us to require that mechanism. Building on the example above, I would tap on the time I did well on the test and got made fun of. If success stops being associated with being made fun of, then I no longer need the protective mechanism.

  • Identification of oneself with the issue, or an inability to see the possibility of resolving the issue. This can involve everything from tapping about changing habits and grief and stresses about change to tapping on the simple concepts of “I don’t know who I am without this issue” or “I can’t imagine life without this issue.”

After clearing the PERs, you’re all set to work on your issues with the same great results tapping usually brings! Good luck! :)

P.S. As a bonus, I also have this video that you can tap along with to help overcome fear of success. Just tap along to try it out! :)

How EFT Tapping Can Help With Your New Year's Resolutions

Did you make any New Year's resolutions for your 2019? Are you concerned about keeping them?

Depending on your source of information, you may have heard statistics that indicate only about 8% of New Year's resolutions are successful, or that 80% of them are abandoned by February. These kinds of numbers paint a grim picture for anyone looking to make any improvements to their lifestyle with the changing of the calendar year. In fact, habits can be challenging to change at any time of year! Fortunately, EFT tapping can be used to help support resolutions made at New Year's - or any other time. I find it's most useful to tap on underlying issues that prevent us from keeping our promises to ourselves. Here are three ways you can use tapping to help change habits:

1. Try tapping on the stress that is caused by changing a habit. Changes - even good ones - create stress in our lives that can accumulate if left unchecked. Everything from logistics associated with a change in habit, to a sense of deprivation or punishment accompanying the change, can contribute. For example, if I wanted to start flossing my teeth every evening, some of the stressors might be: Do I own the right floss? Will I be able to remember to make time, and do it right? Will I have to miss out on anything I like in order to find time to floss?

2. Tap on any pressure to perform that might be present. Sometimes we can be really hard on ourselves and demand perfection when we try to change habits. Research shows that we actually do better if we cut ourselves some slack and aim for consistency over time instead of tapping such a draconian approach. Fear of failure, or perfectionism might also be some underlying issues to tap on.

3. Refusal tapping can provide a useful outlet for the side of us that doesn't want to do what we “should” do… that part that wants to rebel and claim autonomy. Doing a little refusal tapping can help us to get out of our own way and make the choices we'd really like to.

I've created the following tapping sequence to touch on these three potential disruptions to changing habits. As you'll see in the video, it can sometimes also pay to dig a little deeper and see if there are any anxieties or insecurities that create the habits you're trying to change. For example, if I wanted to stop snacking on chips, but realize that I'm an emotional eater, I can address my root triggers with tapping instead of creating an unrealistic goal for myself of not snacking on chips. Realistic, achievable goals go a long way towards keeping resolutions!

Good luck, and happy tapping! :)