Did you make any New Year's resolutions for your 2019? Are you concerned about keeping them?
Depending on your source of information, you may have heard statistics that indicate only about 8% of New Year's resolutions are successful, or that 80% of them are abandoned by February. These kinds of numbers paint a grim picture for anyone looking to make any improvements to their lifestyle with the changing of the calendar year. In fact, habits can be challenging to change at any time of year! Fortunately, EFT tapping can be used to help support resolutions made at New Year's - or any other time. I find it's most useful to tap on underlying issues that prevent us from keeping our promises to ourselves. Here are three ways you can use tapping to help change habits:
1. Try tapping on the stress that is caused by changing a habit. Changes - even good ones - create stress in our lives that can accumulate if left unchecked. Everything from logistics associated with a change in habit, to a sense of deprivation or punishment accompanying the change, can contribute. For example, if I wanted to start flossing my teeth every evening, some of the stressors might be: Do I own the right floss? Will I be able to remember to make time, and do it right? Will I have to miss out on anything I like in order to find time to floss?
2. Tap on any pressure to perform that might be present. Sometimes we can be really hard on ourselves and demand perfection when we try to change habits. Research shows that we actually do better if we cut ourselves some slack and aim for consistency over time instead of tapping such a draconian approach. Fear of failure, or perfectionism might also be some underlying issues to tap on.
3. Refusal tapping can provide a useful outlet for the side of us that doesn't want to do what we “should” do… that part that wants to rebel and claim autonomy. Doing a little refusal tapping can help us to get out of our own way and make the choices we'd really like to.
I've created the following tapping sequence to touch on these three potential disruptions to changing habits. As you'll see in the video, it can sometimes also pay to dig a little deeper and see if there are any anxieties or insecurities that create the habits you're trying to change. For example, if I wanted to stop snacking on chips, but realize that I'm an emotional eater, I can address my root triggers with tapping instead of creating an unrealistic goal for myself of not snacking on chips. Realistic, achievable goals go a long way towards keeping resolutions!
Good luck, and happy tapping! :)